Here Comes the Bride – or not.

I was reading Time today, and they featured an article about a wedding dress shop in New Jersey, Here Comes the Bride, that refused to sell a wedding dress to a woman because the shop manager found out that she is lesbian. The woman plans to marry her fiancee in a perfectly legal ceremony condoned by the state of New York.

The post on Time has received several comments, most supporting the woman that wanted to buy a wedding dress, and some supporting the shop manager. The store has a Yelp page, and has received many one star ratings since the story became public, simply based on the fact that people consider her actions immoral. I can’t say that I was able to hold my tongue and not comment on Time’s post. I probably would have given her my own review on Yelp as well, if I had a Yelp account.

Aside from the repugnant acts of the shop owner, I am wondering how Yelp will respond to the inflow of comments for Here Comes the Bride. Yelp is not a platform for social issues, it is merely a way to find businesses you are interested in. However, if it is not made public that places like this exist in the United States of America, where all are supposedly equal and free, unknowing shoppers may buy from this wedding store, and not realize the kind of people they are supporting. One poster on Yelp pointed out that if people aren’t allowed to shop at certain places, they have the right to know they shouldn’t try before they expose themselves to bigotry.

Now, if you DO realize what Here Comes the Bride in New Jersey stands for, and still want to give them business, by all means, exercise your rights as a human being and shop wherever you want for a wedding dress – because you can legally marry whoever you wish.

I am a heterosexual woman, and I do not believe that sexual orientation defines a person. I do not believe that it makes you who you are. I do find it sad that people in our society claim that they want to move forward – that they want to truly be the “land of the free”, but do not allow others to be free. Everyone talks about moving past the days of slavery. I ask those people, how far do you think we have really come?

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Wakened Wednesday

Take rest; a field that has rested gives a bountiful crop.  – Ovid

The hardest thing to remember during stressful times is to take a breath and remove yourself from the situation. At least that’s the hardest thing for me to remember.

As a graduating senior (in 3 weeks, SCARY!) and someone that currently has two internships and looking at more, I have a lot on my plate; and when that happens to me, I tend to forget how helpful a prioritized to-do list can be. When I’m stressed out, I don’t take a breath and just plan out what to do next; I work on one task for ten minutes, then realize I have something else to do, and switch modes. And then I realize that I’m getting nowhere, make a list, pay more attention to what my iCal says is important, and concentrate on one task at a time. (This is something that I am actively trying to change about myself, and I think I’m making progress!)

Once I have been productive for a little while, it is much easier to watch a re-run of Grey’s Anatomy and then get back to work after giving my mind a 45 minute rest. This quote holds some real truth, a mind that has rested does give much clearer, more thought provoking work. Pulling all-nighters and turning to major caffeine inducement is not always the answer, even for a college girl.

Everyone is stressed. So this Wednesday, take a five minute break to just clear your mind before moving onto your next task. The work you provide will be much more beneficial in the long run. This is a wonderful trick that I use when I’m really crunched for time: