I was reading Time today, and they featured an article about a wedding dress shop in New Jersey, Here Comes the Bride, that refused to sell a wedding dress to a woman because the shop manager found out that she is lesbian. The woman plans to marry her fiancee in a perfectly legal ceremony condoned by the state of New York.
The post on Time has received several comments, most supporting the woman that wanted to buy a wedding dress, and some supporting the shop manager. The store has a Yelp page, and has received many one star ratings since the story became public, simply based on the fact that people consider her actions immoral. I can’t say that I was able to hold my tongue and not comment on Time’s post. I probably would have given her my own review on Yelp as well, if I had a Yelp account.
Aside from the repugnant acts of the shop owner, I am wondering how Yelp will respond to the inflow of comments for Here Comes the Bride. Yelp is not a platform for social issues, it is merely a way to find businesses you are interested in. However, if it is not made public that places like this exist in the United States of America, where all are supposedly equal and free, unknowing shoppers may buy from this wedding store, and not realize the kind of people they are supporting. One poster on Yelp pointed out that if people aren’t allowed to shop at certain places, they have the right to know they shouldn’t try before they expose themselves to bigotry.
Now, if you DO realize what Here Comes the Bride in New Jersey stands for, and still want to give them business, by all means, exercise your rights as a human being and shop wherever you want for a wedding dress – because you can legally marry whoever you wish.
I am a heterosexual woman, and I do not believe that sexual orientation defines a person. I do not believe that it makes you who you are. I do find it sad that people in our society claim that they want to move forward – that they want to truly be the “land of the free”, but do not allow others to be free. Everyone talks about moving past the days of slavery. I ask those people, how far do you think we have really come?
Time article: http://newsfeed.time.com/2011/08/21/new-jersey-bridal-shop-refuses-to-sell-wedding-gown-to-lesbian-bride/